What an ugly expression, meant to portray feminists as greedy consumers rather than social justice advocates. And yet, many feminists have accepted or embraced “having it all” as the terms of the debate! Never do we hear debates about whether heterosexual men can “have it all.” It’s just assumed that “it all” belongs to men, and that if women get more, 1) men will necessarily have less, and 2) the laws of nature will have been subverted.